Vows – Crafted with Love

According to Oxford Dictionaries, the word vow means “a solemn promise (n)”, “to solemnly promise to do a specified thing (v)”, and “to dedicate to someone or something (archaic)”. It makes sense then, as to why we make vows to our spouse in the wedding ceremony; we are pledging, promising, and dedicating ourselves to the other.

My Love and I wanted to make our vows special. We wanted to emphasize to those present at the wedding that 1) we were earnest and serious about our love for the other, and 2) we were committing the rest of our lives to the other, forever, with no exceptions. It seemed to both of us that society takes marriage and the wedding vows far too lightly; people give up on the other too easily, cast blame, and forsake their vows. We wanted to make a statement that this was real, this was lasting, and this was for the rest of our lives- while still staying close to the tradition wedding vow. After an afternoon of sitting in his car while waiting for my rings to be sized and engaging in the writing and word-crafting process, we reached our final result. Our vow was one that conveyed our message of love, commitment, and eternity (and was the most emotional part of our ceremony).

I ___ take you ___ before God and our families to be my wedded {wife/husband}.

I promise to love and cherish you always, from this day forward, for better and for worse, till death do us part.

 All that I am, I give to you, in a bond that is everlasting. With this vow, I dedicate myself to our marriage, our friendship, and our life together. I love you.”

I nearly cried when my groom spoke these words of love to me. And as we made eye contact, we got lost in the moment; the realness of the ceremony and its implications started to settle in our minds. When it came to be my turn at committing to my Love, I had to go slowly, breath deeply, and whisper the last lines for fear of my voice cracking in happy tears. Exchanging our vows was one of my favorite moments of our wedding day- and one of the most emotional- for it summed up the reason we were celebrating before God, family, and friends.

 

Did you do something special or unique with your wedding vows? How did you decide on what to say? I’d love to hear about it!

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Boy Meets Girl; God Works Out the Rest

This blog is the story of a boy and a girl. They both were uncertain of their future after college. They both wanted marriage. But neither had found “the one”. Well, not yet anyway.

That changed when he came to talk to a friend of his while doing some late Christmas shopping. That friend happened to be her coworker, who loved to play matchmaker. The two were introduced by the end of the evening and were facebook friends that night. He thought she was pretty; she thought he had his life together more than the usual guy (okay, and he was really cute). They agreed to meet in a coffee shop the following Saturday. She was nervous; he, excited. As soon as the coffee and hot chocolate were ordered the butterflies settled and the fun began.

It ended up being a four hour adventure that included walking and exploring extensively all downtown and near the college campus nearby. The December chill didn’t bother them as they walked, never stopping the conversation. Over the next few months, the adventure continued and bloomed into a wonderful friendship with many dates and day-trips. By summer, the two had fallen in love and deepened their friendship into something more. Though the boy and girl encountered many challenges in their relationship- including an out-of-state move for him- their commitment to each other only grew stronger and their love more sweet.

December 28, 2014; exactly one year and 99 dates after the first, the two love birds recreated their first date with another visit to the coffee shop and walk around downtown, this time hand-in-hand and head-over-heels in love. After watching the sun set, they headed back across a bridge where he surprised her with a gorgeous ring, a question about the future, and the presence of their families. She cried and smiled and whispered her answer. Tears fell and hugs abounded. Congratulations and much love was spread between families and the couple.

Within the next week the wedding date was set, her wedding dress bought, bridal party picked and asked, and the guest list finalized (they were determined minds and the kind to get things done). Five months later with only a few visits with each other in between, the boy and girl became husband and wife. Mr. & Mrs. So-in-Love-Wurl.

There are ten thousand details left out of the story, but you get the idea. God was at work in both their lives, though neither one could see. And now they seek to worship Him and bring Him glory in their marriage and life together. They are so thankful for their Wonderful Wurl(d) and are going to have a happily ever after. Just wait and see.

Safe and Sound in my Love's Arms